Brene Brown Biography | Inspiration Quotations | Motivation Quotes

Brene Brown Motivational Quotations:

• “The best marriages are the ones where we can go out in the world and really put ourselves out there. A lot of times we'll fail, and sometimes we'll pull it off. But good marriages are when you can go home and know that your vulnerability will be honored as courage, and that you'll find support.”

• “For me, the opposite of scarcity is not abundance. It's enough. I'm enough. My kids are enough.”

• “Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be our best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth; it's a shield.”

• “Maybe stories are just data with a soul.”

• “Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous.”

• “Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do 'faith.'”

• “To me, constructive criticism is when people take ownership of their ideas. That's why I don't listen to anything that's anonymous. But it's hard; when there's something hurtful out there, I still want to read it over and over and memorize it and explain my point of view to the person.”

• “I've learned that men and women who are living wholehearted lives really allow themselves to soften into joy and happiness. They allow themselves to experience it.”

• I think our capacity for wholeheartedness can never be greater than our willingness to be broken-hearted. It means engaging with the world from a place of vulnerability and worthiness.

• “Live-tweeting your bikini wax is not vulnerability. Nor is posting a blow-by-blow of your divorce. That's an attempt to hot-wire connection. But you can't cheat real connection. It's built up slowly. It's about trust and time.

  

   

• “As unique as we all are, an awful lot of us want the same things. We want to shake up our current less-than-fulfilling lives. We want to be happier, more loving, forgiving and connected with the people around us.”

• “First and foremost, we need to be the adults we want our children to be. We should watch our own gossiping and anger. We should model the kindness we want to see.”

• “To me, a leader is someone who holds her- or himself accountable for finding potential in people and processes. And so what I think is really important is sustainability.”

• “I can encourage my daughter to love her body, but what really matters are the observations she makes about my relationship with my own body.”

• “The uncertainty of parenting can bring up feelings in us that range from frustration to terror.”

• “When you stop caring what people think, you lose your capacity for connection. When you're defined by it, you lose our capacity for vulnerability.”

• “The difficult thing is that vulnerability is the first thing I look for in you and the last thing I'm willing to show you. In you, it's courage and daring. In me, it's weakness.”

• “Guilt is just as powerful, but its influence is positive, while shame's is destructive. Shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement.”

• “Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.”

• “I was raised in a family where vulnerability was barely tolerated: no training wheels on our bicycles, no goggles in the pool, just get it done. And so I grew up not only with discomfort about my own vulnerability, I didn't care for it in other people either.”

• “You cannot talk about race without talking about privilege. And when people start talking about privilege, they get paralyzed by shame.”

• “If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people's choices. If I feel good about my body, I don't go around making fun of other people's weight or appearance. We're hard on each other because we're using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived deficiency.”

• “As a shame researcher, I know that the very best thing to do in the midst of a shame attack is totally counterintuitive: Practice courage and reach out!”

• “We're hardwired for connection. There's no arguing with the bioscience. But we can want it so badly we're trying to hot-wire it.”

• “The moment someone asks you to do something you don't have the time or inclination to do is fraught with vulnerability.”

• “In many ways, September feels like the busiest time of the year: The kids go back to school, work piles up after the summer's dog days, and Thanksgiving is suddenly upon us.”

• “Anonymous comments? You're not in the arena, man. If you can't say it to me in person in front of my kids, don't say it.”

•  “I hesitate to use a pathologizing label, but underneath the so-called narcissistic personality is definitely shame and the paralyzing fear of being ordinary.”

• “The moment someone asks you to do something you don't have the time or inclination to do is fraught with vulnerability.”

• “Our need for certainty in an endeavor as uncertain as raising children makes explicit 'how-to-parent' strategies both seductive and dangerous.”

• “I think if you follow anyone home, whether they live in Houston or London, and you sit at their dinner table and talk to them about their mother who has cancer or their child who is struggling in school, and their fears about watching their lives go by, I think we're all the same.”

• “As a vulnerability researcher, the greatest barrier I see is our low tolerance for vulnerability. We're almost afraid to be happy. We feel like it's inviting disaster.”

• “One of the things I did when I discovered this huge importance of being vulnerable is very happily moved away from the shame research, because that's such a downer, and people hate that topic. It's not that vulnerability is the upside, but it's better than shame, I guess.”

• “Ironically, parenting is a shame and judgment minefield precisely because most of us are wading through uncertainty and self-doubt when it comes to raising our children.”

• “I love to take, process and share photos - it fills me up.”

• “In my research, I've interviewed a lot of people who never fit in, who are what you might call 'different': scientists, artists, thinkers. And if you drop down deep into their work and who they are, there is a tremendous amount of self-acceptance.”

• “One thing that I tell people all the time is, 'I'm not going to answer a call from you after nine o'clock at night or before nine o'clock in the morning unless it's an emergency.'”

• “Men walk this tightrope where any sign of weakness illicits shame, and so they're afraid to make themselves vulnerable for fear of looking weak.”

• “Kids who have an understanding of how and why their feelings are what they are are much more likely to talk to us about what's happening, and they have better skills to work it out.”

• “My husband's a pediatrician, so he and I talk about parenting all the time. You can't raise children who have more shame resilience than you do.”

• “We use work to numb out. We can't turn off our machines because we're afraid we're going to miss something.”

• “We judge people in areas where we're vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we're doing.”

• “Normally, when someone we love is turning away from a struggle, we self-protect by also turning away. That's definitely my first response. I think change is more likely to happen if both partners have common language and a shared lens to see problems.”

• “I've learned a lot since I was a new mother. My approach to struggle and shame now is to talk to yourself like you'd talk to someone you love and reach out to tell your story.”